You are more powerful than you know;
you are beautiful just as you are.
7 Steps for Loving Your Body
Written by Jackie Dobrinska
Published in Yoga International
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This is a call to arms. A call to be gentle and loving with yourself, to celebrate the body as it is right now in this moment. Not thinner, stronger, younger. But right now as it is. Celebrating all that it does for us in a given moment.
The next time you look into the mirror, release the story that says you're too fat or too sallow, too ashy or too old, your eyes are too small or your nose too big. This story robs us of our vital energy, our creativity, and our power.
We have a positive body image when we have a realistic perception of our bodies AND we enjoy them just as they are. Positive body image involves understanding that healthy attractive bodies come in many shapes and sizes, and that physical appearance says very little about our character or value as a person. Healthy body image means that our assessment of our bodies is kept separate from our sense of self-esteem, and it ensures that we don’t spend an unreasonable amount of time worrying about food, weight and calories
Nourishing ourselves has become confusing for many in today's modern culture. Our media and consumer culture sends powerful messages suggesting that we can only be loved, healthy and successful if we look a certain way; that food can replace love, happiness, joy and connection; and that fake foods can nourish us. With this heavy emphasis on weight, looks and food choices, disordered eating and more severe eating disorders continue to increase dramatically.
Disordered eating manifests in many ways, and is recognized more by behaviors and attitudes than by looks. They can include:
~ eating when you are not hungry,
~ binging, or binging and purging
~ binging followed by fasting or sever cleanses,
~ restricting foods including strict diets (of any variety)
~ skipping meals regularly,
~ compulsively thinking about food (for example counting calories),
~ excessive exercise to make up for calories consumed,
~ continuous comparison of body types,
~ shame around your body, perceived flaws, and eating,
~ and many others.
When our relationship to food becomes a way to avoid feelings, replaces unmet needs, or consumes our mental space, then we have moved into disordered eating patterns. Life doesn't have to be this way.
There is a way to find ease with our relationship to our bodies, our diets and our lives. It takes willingness to admit that there is a problem and a commitment to work through the deeper layers we are covering up with food. We may have to:
~ learn to feel our feelings,
~ address our frustrations, sadness and loneliness,
~ learn strategies for meeting our needs including connection, community, excitement, sweetness & love in other ways,
~ come to terms with what we can control and what we cannot control
~ and learn to love ourselves from the inside out!
One of the first steps in finding relief is to get support. Meetings are a great place to start.
Check out local meetings in your area or contact me about weekly support groups via phone.